Christian Life, Sex Life, and Real Life

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Wow!
If you're reading this right now, something is about to get stirred up within you. So brace yourself and be ready!!!

Hebrews 13:4 NLT "Give honour to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery".

Every one who knows me personally can attest to my belief in sexual purity. I am, in a way, a sexual purity advocate. However, this advocacy of mine is getting hit by the strong wind of real life.

While we were younger, we were taught in church to keep the bed undefiled. And that was pretty much easy to do. The "don't have a boyfriend" rule was quite easy to maintain. "Don't be alone in a room with the opposite sex" was also in a way protective and sensible at the time. I could go on and on. And really, personally for me, as a teenager and as an emerging adult, those rules were life to me. I lived them (not 100% tho, but I tried, lol).

Today, in 2018, when a grown lady and man are in a relationship heading towards marriage, how do they keep the sexual purity going? Is it really possible, in all justification?

I believe that at some points, intending couples would be alone several times, except if we want to keep deceiving ourselves. This is 21st century, he has a house, she may have her house too, sleepovers would even happen except in very rare cases. They are even alone online.... Sexting is there too, so what are we talking about?

I'm actually being as realistic as possible. We are adults with marriage in view. That teenager had no marriage in view, she could steer clear of boyfriends. That young boy had career in view, he could stay without intimacy. But now we're adults with career going, and I ask, what are the sexual purity guidelines for us?

Mind you, by adults, I mean matured persons that have come to know what they are here for in life. If you haven't found your purpose and aren't yet walking in it, please the teenage rules still apply to you irrespective of your age, just take a seat abeg.

Premarital sex should not be found among Christians, but it's the most rampant thing. I asked in church last Sunday school on how to keep the bed undefiled as an adult. The answers I got were still what I was told when I was thirteen years old. Times have changed. Those rules don't work for adults, and that's the truth. Even my Pastor doesn't know the answer.

Let me just bring this home here, I could go on and on about Christian life, sex life, and reality.

So, I earnestly asked God for how to really not fall into fornication (fornication involves everything around it, it's not until the main act of coitus).
I don't have the formula for it yet, but I heard God tell me to do a series on this blog about this topic, and He would reveal His own solutions. For as many that key into it would find liberty from premarital sex by His Grace.

I would also do some research work. I'd ask some of my married mentors how they did it. I wouldn't want anyone telling me the textbook way, tell me your own practical testimony. And peradventure as a reader, you have a success story, please do well to inbox me here: ayodamola4@gmail.com

Let's watch out for the next post, meanwhile, suspend every of your sexual activities, I beg you.
Your partner loves you; God loves you more. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20.

Shalom.




Comments

Iyanu said…
Lovely writeup!

Entering into a Covenant with God, written and agreed upon and maybe signed by both parties. This works!
5 April 2018 at 09:09
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