The Formula to Avoiding Premarital Romance

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I'm so sorry you had to wait this long to hear from me again. Honestly, this matter is beyond me. I wanted to be sure to have a formula that works (emphasis on works) before I came here. I've been going back and forth on this tab for days now, but thank God, I'm ready now.

Voila! I have the formula that works :)

This week is my relationship's one year anniversary, yeah, you read that right, lol. Okay, our own anniversary is when we met, because we couldn't exactly place the day when we officially kicked off. So we settled for the day we met instead as anniversary, lol.

Back to the matter at hand, Christian life, sex life, and real life. After my interrogation with a couple of dating believers, I realized that in the first months of being in love, they can't get enough of each other and they want to convince their psychology that they'd be with each other for life.
It is like when you get a child a new toy,  he plays with it all day, he becomes so engrossed with it until he finally spoils it. It is psychological for us to ensure we get to the rudiments of the things that interests us, and we discard them after we are satisfied.

Now, as the child grows up, he learns to keep his toys safe and not try to open up what makes them up. An adult man gets a car and he treats it with care, you know why? It is because he is matured to know the car is his, and he is rest assured. He is in no hurry to cruise it around town lest he crashes it.

The first formula is to find assurance in God and your partner that you both are meant for each other and would spend forever together. You did not know all the settings of your android phone at once, it was because you were relaxed in your mind that the phone was there to stay.

So there's really nothing that should rush you to the bed when you are assured you would spend forever with your partner. The people of the world sleep with their partners because they kind of have a feeling they'd still break up, they do not have the Holy Spirit to convince them that's their life partner. So they get what they can get while it lasts. But we are not of the world though we may be in it. Their ways are not our ways.

Now, the second formula is the word "DESIRE". In simple and straight forward terms, your desire is what translates into your actions.

James 1: "13 When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death."

The same way you control your desires against stealing and fighting, is the same way you control your romantic desires. Desire for romance in itself is not a sin, but it is capable of going through its life cycle which ends in sin and death.

Someone said, "those are critical steps...if a brother keeps harbouring desire...one day he will be enticed...if that persists...one day...it will conceive."

"At any of those points, grace is available, but it requires his cooperation...and the longer he stays the more difficult it becomes for him to conform to the help that grace is offering."

There is grace for standing against sexual immorality, let's open up our hearts to receive it.

Do not put yourselves in compromising situation that would give enough room for romantic desires to express itself. The onus is therefore on you to determine what is compromising for you and your partner. However, let he that thinks he stands take heed, lest he falls, 1 Corinthians 10:12.

As I conclude this series, the practical step my partner and I are taking is to have a relationship goal. And that goal is to keep off the romantic desire for our next one relationship year.  I enjoin you to join this call too, whether you are single or double. It is a call to pleasing God with your live and relationship. It is very possible, just believe, receive the grace, and set your heart straight towards it.

I declare, for everyone reading this, the grace to stand for Christ, fiance and fiancee alike, not to defile the bed, to flee youthful lust, this day, in Jesus name. We receive this Grace the Lord is offering to us in Jesus name.

If you have yielded this call, mark today's date, and let's see how we'll fare within the next one year.

I am presently reading, "Things I wish I Knew Before Getting Married" by Gary Chapman.
Photo credits: Pinterest
Shalom

Comments

Anonymous said…
Nice 1 sis .....Bless up...
..i pray God continue to release the GRACE upon us
23 April 2018 at 22:32
Oyepitom said…
God bless u girl... Quite practical steps...bt of course, lyk u said... we nid grace...I pray grace wl b sufficient for us all...
Shalom...
24 April 2018 at 06:58
Anonymous said…
This write up has really blessed and directed me. Thank you so much for this
24 April 2018 at 09:14
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